Taking big leaps in your venture requires great risk, exposure and uncertainty. Especially when you’re mission driven there’s an emotional vulnerability intrinsically linked to this risk. To share your vision is to allow yourself to be seen. This raw honesty is foundational to not only your purpose but your bottom line.
Many years ago, while I was launching my healthcare and trauma healing clinic it demanded I share more and more of myself authentically. But to reveal parts of my journey healing from abuse, anxiety, depression, chronic pain and scoliosis brought up a lot of fear and triggered a lot of shame.
So there was also a part of me guarding my vulnerability. This meant I postured myself in such a way that actually inhibited my creativity and restrained my innovation. This kept me from living into the wave of change and growth of my business despite a deep drive and longing within me.
I held a belief that my vulnerability was weak and I wasn’t even aware of the shame tapes still running the show until they blew up in my face. Each time I’d take a leap in growing my venture I would feel paralyzed by the belief that I didn’t really have what it took to pull it off. My bold vision would feel squashed by the weight of my shame. This made it incredibly difficult to present my work to the world and fully own the value of my worth.
Plus I felt I needed to overcompensate to show face and appear like I had it all under control. Since my shame and fear were crippling me from the inside I did everything in my power to present as if I had it all figured out on the outside.
When you feel it’s wrong to be you, a function of shame, it can lend itself to suppressed anger and aggression. Not feeling like there’s a place for you in the world, much less your big vision, can create feelings of isolation and being unsafe. This fear does a great job at keeping us and our ventures small.
The more we live into the fulfillment of our mission the more we we’ll come up against the corrosive nature of both shame and fear … “It’s wrong for me to think this big” “Who am I to be so bold?” “Take up space?” “Influence others?” “Play by my own rules?” “Create a new paradigm” “Inspire change in others?” “I should just get in line like everyone else”
Yet when we’re aligned to the highest good, and hold true and steadfast to living a life of service, it will demand we look shame right in the eye, question its validity and uproot its origins. This takes the same level of commitment as delivering on our outer vision yet its all an inside game and it takes both courage and empathy.
Empathy can help us connect to our own humanity and that of others. Then we feel less alone, less separate, and more connected and supported. From this very place of human connection we can harness the power of our own presence to find alignment and staying power. When we set the shame aside we can rest in the uncertainty of entrepreneurship and experience it as an ocean of possibility to fuel the long view of our vision. Then being seen becomes our greatest asset and not a liability.
Ready to be seen? Ready for that next level of support? It's time. Come to the next live event. Schedule a complimentary upper limit strategy session.